
A Buckingham Palace Tea Party - PA Archives
A popular subject in the press – and in our own experience – has been that of acceptable dress codes in many walks of life. The suit has declined in many work places and professions, there are discussions on informal wear at formerly ‘dressy’ occasions like Royal Ascot, Glyndebourne operas, Buckingham Palace tea parties etc. School uniforms regularly come in for tirades from the opposite camps who advocate either informality (can’t see the point in forcing people into uniforms) or formality (uniforms are socially equalising and engender team or corporate spirit), and even the traditional dress of e.g. Scouts, Guides and the Armed Services are hotly debated.
St Trinian's - Hardly CLC, but...
Putting my own cards on the table, I am in favour of uniform, and also in many cases, traditional uniform and dress, unless it is particularly uncomfortable or inappropriate. Formal or traditional wear can hark back to better times – there is an important place for nostalgia I believe in maintaining standards. I deplore modern dress sense (or lack of it) with T-shirts, frayed jeans, badly fitting clothes exposing flabby bodies and baseball hats – not to mention the ubiquitous ‘hoody’ being de rigeur. What was wrong with Boy Scouts wearing shorts, neckerchiefs and wide-brimmed hats? They were distinctive, provided a recognisable brand and provided protection of face and neck from over-exposure to the sun (if not to the knees!). School uniform has been a bête noir of mine for a long time and I mourn the cross-dressing or transgenderisation of girl’s uniforms with a greater move to trousers rather than skirts or dresses. Even in some of the top public schools, trends have moved away from rigid enforcement of dress codes, and in our local Cheltenham Ladies’ College (CLC) (the former principal having said that she had virtually given up trying to enforce them) the universal hanging of blouse hems outside the pullover and skirt (where worn) is the norm. The shapeless, sometimes baggy and crumpled pin-striped grey trousers the senior girls are permitted to wear is distinctly unfeminine to my eyes. The most extreme variation I saw recently on a CLC girl on her way to school, was to ‘wear’ her pullover with the inside-out arms reversed on her own arms with the body of the pullover hanging down her front like an apron – hopefully corrected before she actually got into assembly.

Extreme Oxford Dress - The Bullingdon Club
This rambling preamble, however, brings me to the meat of my subject. Veronica and I are on the whole traditionalists (I still recall that in Rhodesia [even for a short while after becoming the independent Zimbabwe] the white element of the population when attending the cinema, wore evening dress and stood for the British National Anthem). We like weddings to be, if possible, attended in formal wear (Morning Dress, Frock Coat, Kilt, ladies’ dresses below the knee with hats etc.). Veronica thinks, as I do, and it would appear at least, Brasenose College, Oxford, that those attending a public breakfast meal should be dressed and not still in their night attire. A few times at Hanover House (www.hanoverhouse.org) breakfast times, young ladies have ventured down to the communal table in nighties, pyjamas, dressing gowns and in bare feet. Veronica in a motherly way generally mildly reproves them and they retire rapidly and soon reemerge in hastily thrown-on normal clothes to join the other guests. They don’t seem to mind at all – but we do know that other guest houses welcome the habit with a view that it means that it means that guests feel relaxed. That is all very well, but sometimes the other, more traditionally attired guests don’t – particularly if middle-aged or more elderly where such behaviour would have been inconceivable in their own youth and environments – in public at least. What goes on behind closed family doors is wholly private and should stay that way.

Oxford Students in Formal Wear
A recent article in The Telegraph exemplified the debate. In the last couple of years there had been a few highlighted occurrences where e.g. TESCO banned customers turning up in their night clothes to shop in the early morning and schools asked parents not to drop their children off at school while similarly dressed – or not, as the case may be. The article covered a notice displayed in Brasenose College Oxford advising students not to attend breakfast in the college refectory still wearing their night clothes. It said that clearly there was a difference between public and private areas within the college and appropriate dress for each, and that clearly some students had mistaken communal breakfast as being a private area and not a public one. Students interviewed, however, seemed not to take this view, thinking that although Oxford has acceptable traditions (many sadly being rapidly eroded) of Dining In nights and evening meals being taken wearing gowns, they thought that breakfast should be even more informal than it already was, where casual dress was permitted.
Woman in a Dressing Gown
However, any sympathy I might have had for the students was dispelled by their opinion that if they had to dress, some might not get any breakfast, particularly if they had been out late partying the night before. Note – not through the stress of a tight academic timetable, or essay deadlines etc! If students lack sufficient discipline and time management skills to enable them to get out of bed at a suitable time, wash, dress and present themselves in reasonable order for breakfast, then perhaps they should do without, or purchase themselves sustenance later in the day!









